Learn to Love Your Job or Leave It

It all started with a quote by Sister Mary Lauretta.to be successful fall in love with your work.png

“To be successful, the first thing to do is fall in love with your job.” Sister Mary Lauretta.

I don’t even know why I posted the quote. I knew that falling in love with a job is a really hard thing to do.

I have been mostly blessed with jobs that I was happy with. I might not have loved them but I didn’t dread every day that I had to go to the job.

There was one bad job. It was a temporary job. I was between full time jobs and working as an accounting temp. The job was horrible. For me it was temporary. The people I worked with expressed a desperation based upon the feeling that they were stuck there. The shifts were long. There was no time off allowed for job searches.

When my stint with them ended, I made sure that I didn’t get invited back. I didn’t want the desperation of the permanent employees to become mine.

I was fortunate. I found a job that I could truthfully say, “I am grateful for this job.”

So, when I posted that quote, I knew that it might only be possible for someone called Sister.

Strangely, Sister Mary Lauretta is quoted but I couldn’t find any inforimages (1)mation about her. I suspect that if she had learned to love her job, she had also learned humility and avoided publicity.

After I had posted the quote, I felt a little guilty for posting such a glib quote.

I am not accusing Sister Mary of being glib. But I was feeling as if I had been glib.

So, I posted this: Happy Monday! Learn to love your job . . . Or have a plan to leave2017-07-28_1825 it.

The first response was, “I wish it were that easy.”

Of course, I knew that.

So, my next post was: I am curious, which would be easier – to learn to love your job or to make a plan to leave it?

2017-07-28_1822The comments were mixed. Some people chose learning to love their job and others chose to make a plan to leave it. Not really surprising.

I had one more question: Is it easier to learn to love your job and to work the plan you have to leave it?

2017-07-28_1823Not so many comments. I wonder if the reality was beginning to sink in. It isn’t easy to love the job you hate. It isn’t easy to find a way out of it.

I guess I am grateful to not be in that situation. But I think I understand the pain of this dilemma.

I asked myself, how does one learn to love their job? I have three suggestions:

Practice Gratitude

Counselors have long made this a key to healing in mental, emotional and relationship issues. In a paper published by UMass Dartmouth states there are several studies that have indicated the value of gratitude.

Here are my suggestions for practicing gratitude:

Cheerful Woman Writing in Her JournalJournal Your Gratitude – Try this experiment. At the end of your day, write in a journal at least one thing you are grateful for about your job. Do this for 30 days. I predict that you will see an improvement in your attitude about your job.

Verbalize Your Gratitude – I learned the power of verbalizing as a care giver for my mom. I realized I had a less than excited response when she told me thank you. I would nod or mumble my answer. At some point, I decided to speak with meaning the “You’re welcome” I had been mumbling. Soon, I had started sounding like I meant it and I really did.

I didn’t hate what I was doing for my mom. It wasn’t anything like the job you may hate. But speaking clearly, instead of mumbling my pleasure in doing things for her, made a huge difference.

I believe, speaking out loud, an expression of gratitude, will make a difference for you. Thank your boss when you are asked to do a task – after all it is an expression of confidence in you. Thank a co-worker for helping you with a job. Give thanks when someone opens a door for you. Be thankful that you have a job – many people do not.

Review Your Gratitude – Read your journal entries to encourage yourself. Watch for more depth in your gratitude.

Find your purpose.

What is it that makes you excited, fulfilled, happy or content?

girl-2386167_1920.jpgIf education, money, experience, connections weren’t a factor, what would you like to do.

What would you enjoy doing even if you didn’t get paid?

Don’t be afraid to pursue your dream job.

I like to ask the above questions. When I asked a young man, I will call Dan, he answered with a job I didn’t know existed. He wanted to be involved with gun training.

I wondered how realistic he was being. But because I believe we are all designed to fulfill our purpose, I encourage people to pursue their passion. So, I kept my reservations to my self and told him to do what he is passionate about.

Dan had a job that he probably hated. It wasn’t gun related.

Then when he was let go from that job Dan did something that many of us questioned.

I had reservations about Dan’s decision to take his family out of state to pursue an interview with a gun training company. He had no income and no assurance of an interview. I don’t think the company knew he existed.

But, Dan got the interview. He got admittance to a school for gun training. The company he hoped would hire him paid for the school but Dan had to pay for his living expenses. Only the top graduate would be offered a job.

Dan got the job! And he has exceled at it!

Let Go

woman-737439_1920But what if Dan had not been fired from his unfulfilling job? There were frustrations in the job.

While he waited to find a way to his passion, he needed to let go of the frustrations.

I am not sure if he did; but I am guessing that he may have let go of frustrations. Perhaps, that is how he was emotionally strong enough to take the huge risk he did

How do you let go of the frustrations of a terrible job?

Have a dream. Have a plan.

Believe in what you were designed to be.

Find encouragement in realizing you are building character qualities that will strengthen you for pursuing you ultimate goals.

I fear I am still being glib.

I know life is hard. I know there are no easy solutions.

But I do believe that if, today, you will do what is hard, that tomorrow’s path will still be hard. But you will be stronger and it will feel less hard.

There is one more question I think I want to ask.

Knowing that whatever you choose will be hard. Which do you want to choose to learn Knowing that whatever you choose will be hard. Which do you want to choose to learn to love your job or work to leave-to love your job or work to leave?

For some the choice should be to learn to love their job. Others should courageously work their plan to leave.

Which is right for you?

I suggest that whatever you want to choose is where your passion lies. And . . .

If you are following your passion neither can be wrong.

Do what you were made to do.

And be blessed.

 

Connie Suarez

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